Ways to Keep Your Head Up When The Job Search Drags on

Nancy Anderson
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Seeking employment can be frustrating, demanding and tiresome. You're constantly submitting applications, going on interviews and updating your resume. The days of searching for work may turn into weeks and months. The longer you go without a job offer, the more stressful the process becomes. Despite all of this, it is important to stay positive during your job search, and here are some ways to accomplish that.

Build a Support System

Being unemployed for an extended period of time can create feelings of isolation and loneliness. Ask your close friends, family members and former colleagues for support during this time, and make it a point to meet with them regularly during your job search, as keeping yourself isolated may enhance feelings of depression. Being social does not necessarily require money; try meeting a friend at a park for a walk or a game of volleyball. Volunteering is another great way to connect with friends and loved ones, and the experiences you gain can even enhance your resume.

Keep Learning

Being knee-deep in your job search is no excuse to stop improving yourself. Use this time to increase your knowledge of relevant subjects, or try reading motivational books, such as Stephen R. Covey's "7 Habits of Highly Effective People." Spend time at the free public library, and attend local seminars and networking events. Continuously learning new things breaks up the monotony of a job search while preparing you to become a more effective employee.

Take Regular Breaks

This may seem counterintuitive, but it is important to step away from your job search and unwind regularly. Searching for a job can be as demanding as a full-time job, so taking time off to gain perspective and recharge is imperative. Take regular walks, join an adult sports league or take a short road trip to visit a friend for a few days. What you do with this time doesn't matter, as long as it temporarily takes you away from the daily grind.

Practice Positive Self-Talk

Going weeks and months without positive feedback from potential employees can breed feelings of self-doubt. No matter how your interviews are going, train yourself to always stay positive. Regularly remind yourself of your strengths and accomplishments. Practice positive visualization: keep a mental picture of your ideal career situation in the back of your mind, and remind yourself that with each passing day, you are getting closer to that ideal image.

It is important to remember that searching for a job is temporary. Many job seekers find themselves dealing with feelings of self-doubt, despair and negativity. Staying positive and remaining persistent throughout your job search helps keep those negative thoughts at bay and makes the journey to gainful employment less difficult.


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  • Ned M.
    Ned M.

    I am 56, ready to throw the towel!

  • Robert B.
    Robert B.

    I am 49 wondering if I should remove dates on resume? comments anyone

  • Robert B.
    Robert B.

    Thanks me too praying and staying positive

  • Carmen B.
    Carmen B.

    Prayers each and everyday! What I do!

  • Nancy Anderson
    Nancy Anderson

    @Marley it certainly can get frustrating. Sometimes it helps to take a step back and review your process. Is your resume up-to-date? Have you had it reviewed by anyone? Are you applying for jobs for which you are qualified? Are you following the instructions on the job posting? Some postings will ask for additional information so make sure that you are giving them what they need. Are you asking around to family, friends, acquaintances regarding jobs? Are you networking? Are you following up the companies? Today finding a job is a fulltime job in itself. Make sure that you are giving it the time and attention it really deserves. Best of luck to you.

  • Marley W.
    Marley W.

    I put so many applications in and still do not get any calls. Im g3ttung very frustrated.

  • Debra W.
    Debra W.

    Thanks for the great advice!!!! Never give up.

  • Debra W.
    Debra W.

    Never give up!!!!!!!!

  • jodh A.
    jodh A.

    good

  • Nancy Anderson
    Nancy Anderson

    @Nadira, a prospective employer will be able to see, right away, that you are a new graduate with little to no experience. If you have any other experience make sure that you play it up. It's tough to get started but not impossible. Just make sure that you do your due diligence and find out about the company before applying. That way you can tell them how you will benefit the company. I would also go through the career services offered by the school and hunt for a position that way. Best of luck.

  • Nadira H.
    Nadira H.

    I am a current graduate of an accredited school for medical assistant, only have limited amount of experience for this field and I am certified. What should I do?

  • Dorette P.
    Dorette P.

    Excellent Advice. Thank you

  • Nancy Anderson
    Nancy Anderson

    @Lisa thanks for chiming in. So sorry to hear that you are going through this. As I asked @Carmen, have you exhausted every avenue? Are you networking? Reaching out to those you have worked with in the past? Have you considered updating your skills and getting additional certifications? I certainly understand the no work-no pay way of life. It's great that you are working though - even part-time. Have you tried going through temp agencies for a full-time position - even if it's not permanent? We do hear, all of the time, about the millennials swooping in and taking all of the jobs and then not taking them seriously. Talking on their cells or being on the Internet all day and not working. Sooner or later this is going to come back to bite them. The old adage "you get what you pay for" is going to be front and center for some of the companies that let these young people get away with it. As for salary, that is a tough one. Everyone is fighting for higher wages. The only thing I see with the higher wages is higher cost of living. If the minimum wage raises to $10/hr everything else is going to go up also - housing, food, transportation, clothing, etc. so the $10 tomorrow will be like $7 today. All I can suggest is that you put yourself out there. Attend networking events in your area as well as all job fairs. Talk it up with friends, family - anyone you can. The jobs are out there. You just have to find them. Anyway that your part-time jobs can go into full-time? Try every avenue available. We will be rooting for you.

  • LISA SIGONA
    LISA SIGONA

    I have been searching since 2010, being 60 doesn't help. The older you are the harder it gets. They definitely don't come out and say it's your age, but they definitely do use it against you. They will take a younger candidate over an older one, especially since I do not have a two year or four year degree. Only have certifications. 16 years in one job (government) laid off and then I'm not given a chance. It's very discouraging. I can get part-time jobs with no benefits, and little pay that won't cover the rent. In the 5 years that have gone by, there are times, I've looked at my puppy's food and thought, how bad could it be... These people haven't a clue we need more to live on. I haven't taken a day off in 5 years as a part-timer. No work - no pay. These young things getting hired, call in all the time! No responsibilities or cares in the world.

  • Nancy Anderson
    Nancy Anderson

    @Carmen so sorry to hear this. Have you exhausted every resource available? If you went to college, have you tried their career services center? Have you checked on your state's unemployment site for jobs? Are you networking? Are you asking around? Are you letting people know that you are looking for a new position? In the meantime, have you applied for assistance through your county or state to assist with food and living expenses? Are you searching for jobs that might be out of your comfort zone but ones that you are qualified for? I know it's frustrating. I wish I had a magic wand that I could wave and that everyone who wants to be employed would be! All we can do is keep on looking and applying. We wish you all the best.

  • Carmen B.
    Carmen B.

    Right now it have been seven months looking for a job. I don't have enough carefare to go go interviews right now so I buy less food to eat.

  • Nancy Anderson
    Nancy Anderson

    @Beverly so very sorry that happened. At least with a layoff you can apply for unemployment. I know that's little comfort but at least it will ease a bit of the suffering. Since you have worked at the university for that long, would you be able to fight the layoff and force them to retire you so that you receive some retirement until you reach social security age? Just a thought. Sometimes it's worth it. Are you looking around at other higher education places in your area? With all of your experience you would be a great fit. Have you thought about working from home and still staying in the educational field? There are always remote jobs for those who have the experience. We wish you all the best.

  • BEVERLY T.
    BEVERLY T.

    I agree with margaret. At 61, I should not have to start over looking for another job. I was comfortable in the job that I had for 34 years until I got a new boss who turned into a queen bee and there were a few of us who got laid off. although the university violated FMLA and EE OC federal guidelines the HR Director still let her lay me off and I only had 5 more years to go before I would retire

  • margaret Bynum
    margaret Bynum

    Looking for a job is very stressful when you get old and should be retiring.

  • Janette Dunham
    Janette Dunham

    Great advice as looking for a job is a job in and of itself.

  • Nancy Anderson
    Nancy Anderson

    @Cathleen thank you for your comment. It certainly is hard to keep your head up and try to be positive when you are closing in on 1 year. Maybe some suggestions would help. Are you contacting recruiters? Are you using Linkedin to your advantage by reaching out and networking with others in your field? Are you going to local job fairs? Are you talking it up with family and friends - letting them know that you are looking? Have you checked out any temp agencies? Have you tried looking for a position that's a bit out of your area of expertise? Are you treating your job search as a job? Get up in the morning and get ready - just as if you were going to a job. Then work (job search) a regular day. Many job seekers say that they do this but when you ask some probing questions you find out that they maybe put an hour each day into the search. Now, if you feel that the walls are closing in, try doing your search from a different place. For instance take your laptop and head to the nearest Starbuck's. Sometimes just a change in your environment is enough to get your spirits up and to find that perfect job. Wishing you all the best.

  • Cathleen P.
    Cathleen P.

    These are all very healthy suggestions,I have been job searching for the better part of 1 year. It can be very depressing and you absolutely can lose your self perspective in this never ending pursuit. I need to update my resume and continue the search, I know I am not alone and that there are millions of Americans who are on the same path as myself but it is very frustrating and frightening as you lose your assets one by one, next it will be my home. I hope all of you who are in this searching with me have great success and do not despair because we will make it through to the other side where we get a paycheck and feel like a valued employee!

  • Anil Karakkattu
    Anil Karakkattu

    Thank you Nancy...will surely update my progress on job search...

  • Nancy Anderson
    Nancy Anderson

    @Anil thanks for your comments and for having such a positive attitude. I think that attitude accounts for a large percentage of why some get hired and others don't. If you go into an interview with a defeatist attitude, it will come across to the interviewer. But if you go in as someone who is really passionate about what they do and who can show their worth to a company, you will be the one who gets hired. So thank you for that and keep us posted on your job search. Best of luck to you.

  • Anil Karakkattu
    Anil Karakkattu

    To add on...I have not lost hope and don't consider myself as a unemployed person but a passionate industry participants working towards finding an exciting opportunity to utilize my considerable talents. Good luck to all.

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