A job search can be a mixed blessing. On the one hand, you want to improve your quality of life by finding a position that fits your professional goals. On the other, finding your perfect job may take some time and effort, whether you're currently unemployed or you simply want to switch jobs for something new.
Your family, friends and significant other already know you're on the hunt for a new position. You connect with your network, check job postings and polish your resume as part of your job search. You have a plan, and you're sticking to it, no matter how long it takes. You've probably heard a few of the following questions at some point, so your reaction to your well-meaning friends and family could get a bit tense during a prolonged search.
1. You Haven't Found a Job Yet?
This is probably the most irritating question you hear during a job search. No one has a specific time frame for landing a position, especially in a competitive job market or an economic downturn. This insensitive comment is even worse when you're unemployed.
2. Are You Even Qualified for That Job?
Not every position exactly matches your qualifications, but that doesn't mean you can't handle the job. You can still transfer skills and prove soft skills in an interview, so follow your instincts, and try to land an exciting opportunity that seems right in your mind — even if it doesn't match on paper.
3. Don't You Know Someone?
Your network is an important asset, but your friends and family may not realize that tapping into your connections takes a bit of work. You can't always outright ask someone to put in a good word. You have to prove your worth to your contact, and even if you manage to do that, you're not guaranteed a position.
4. Why Don't You Switch Careers?
This question has good intentions, but if you're someone who loves working with animals, you may not want a sales job for a computer firm. Follow your passions, and your finances come along for the ride.
5. Any Updates?
You're already trying your hardest, and you may already be embarrassed if you haven't landed a job. This open-ended question may come across as condescending if it comes from someone who feels you've somehow dropped the ball.
6. Do You Like All This Free Time?
Sometimes a job search is a full-time gig. Much like a full-time job, everyone needs a break every once in a while. Deal with people's insensitivity by learning to spend time on your hobbies. Exercise, bird watch, spend time in the garden or do whatever it takes to refresh your mind. Spending time away from the search helps boost morale and clear your head.
7. You Think You'll Find Something Eventually?
People may ask this when there's nothing else to say. It's rude, much like saying "hang in there," but all you can do is continue to move forward with your job search.
The key to handling insensitive questions is to ignore them and move on, even when they sound hurtful. Perform your job search your way, and you may find yourself in career bliss despite the naysayers.
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