Sweaty palms, nervous fretting and uncomfortable pauses in conversation are the hallmarks of first dates. If you are a job seeker, then you might recognize those signs are also present in many, if not most, interview situations. A job interview and a date with potential paramour share many similarities. You can take a few cues from your personal life and apply them to your professional endeavors.
When meeting a potential romantic partner for the first time, you typically dress to impress, paying particular attention to details of your appearance. First impressions are important with potential employers, too. In addition to donning your best interview outfit, take time to groom the little details as well. Don't accessorize with a sloppy bag or Big Gulp cup.
In both interview and first-date scenarios, the subject of your previous relationship is bound to be broached. It is bad form to bad mouth your ex, and it is bad form to speak ill of your former employer. You will likely be asked about the circumstances surrounding your decision to end your former relationships, and though you should never resort to deceit, you want to be sure to be prepared for the question. Find positive aspects about your time with your former partner, since your future partner could easily imagine you saying similar remarks about them one day.
Leave a lasting, favorable impression after the interview by extending little courtesies. Follow up with a thank you for the time the interviewer took getting to know you. At the interview, express your interest in exploring a possible professional relationship. Showing courtesy and appreciation demonstrates your ability to treat people with respect and to forge positive relationships.
Before an interview, conduct a little market research to get to know your audience. Rehearse a few good stories to keep the conversation moving and highlight your positive attributes. Though the nature of these stories will differ in the two situations, the point remains the same – you are attempting to emphasize your unique attributes and show your potential partner what benefits you bring to the table. Both interview and date situations are marketing opportunities where you are the commodity. If you know what the person across the table is looking for, you can tailor your responses to that image and present the skills and achievements to paint the picture of what he or she is seeking.
In both a job interview and first date, there is pressure that comes with unfamiliarity and with the knowledge of the potential future rewards that depend on a successful interaction. Both interview and date situations are nerve-wracking. Approach both scenarios with self-awareness and be aware of what the other person is hoping to gain, and your might find yourself in a new relationship soon.
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